Pain and Things I Can't Explain

I am a curious kind of a person and  I often like to ask questions that have no answers. I know it sounds peculiar, but I'll give you an example. So, can you define time? 

For a second there, you might have felt confident, since time feels like something everyone knows like the back of their hands. Never the less,  you might not have come up with a concrete answer. The entire concept of time is as entangled as anything can get.  Even as you try to unravel it in order to find answers, you only end up with more questions and more knots. The fluidity of a simple word with no meaning, yet with a presence that can impact you in a profound manner, is confusing at its best and frustrating at its worst. 

A similar concept is that of Pain and Loss.

 Sometimes I wonder why our hearts ache for certain people. Or rather how the grief can make our throats constrict.  I wonder how a beating muscle of the size of our fist can feel like so heavy. Like it could weigh you down and sink you underwater. And yet no pain is similar to what you have felt before. It hits you like a cannon ball with a different impact each time. Again, you can't define or describe Pain. 

Sometimes I wonder if we can't describe pain, or if we can't really understand its presence, then how are we supposed to deal with it? It is like a strange illness festering in our marrow,  devouring our hurts and playing with our minds with an unexplainable ease. 

And these questions will haunt me forever, waiting to be answered. But pain is an illness without cure or prevention. 

But for all the things that I don't know about pain, here is everything that I do-

1. The only kind of pain that you can avoid in life is the pain you feel when you try to avoid pain. It's the pain of holding back your tears and pretending that you're okay when you are clearly not.  

2. Time never heals pain. You just eventually get used to it. You'll forget who you were without it. You'll forget what you looked like without your scars.

3.  Pain is the momentum of all your world crashing around you as you try to walk by unscathed. 

4. Pain is something we all have in common. It's the only thing that we understand. We are all connected by a map of tears and heartbreaks. It is a language that we all understand despite where we're from and who we've been. 

5. Learn to accept pain. Learn to embrace this disease like it's a part you. Hold it close so that it keeps reminding you of things that you have lost and things that you'll never find. 

And finally, learn to live with it. Remember pain so that you can be thankful for the happiness when you still have it. Hold on to it, because there is a certain pleasure in knowing that you can feel too. That you're human too, still not broken beyond repair.